Are we ever actually ready
I have come to the conclusion that we are never as ready to take action as soon as we wish we were. It seems that no matter how small the task, new or old, we will sit and wait for everything to fall into place before moving forward.
As a writer, I will reflect on how much better my writing would be if I would just stop and clean off my computer area. How silly. Cleaning off my desk would improve nothing except for removing one more chore off my to-do list. I will admit that is a case of procrastination. Writers are known for this, but once I do start, I don’t even think of my list, I write.
By acting in this manner, people hinder their own efforts. An example is when we are preparing for guests. We tend to alter and worry over every detail, right up until the doorbell rings. I am guilty of this too, and wanting everything as perfect and enjoyable as possible. There has to be a limit! Think of all the time wasted, trying to make everything perfect. You may never reach your imagined perfection and just might make situations worse.
Say, you miss a wonderful day at the beach with good friends you would have loved to see. Unfortunately, you put off buying summer clothes, including a swimsuit, thinking you would lose that weight. No use spending money on clothes you’ll be discarding soon. Do you really believe that? How many times has that thought applied to you? Would you change your attitude and go have that perfect day with your friends? Once lost, those experiences and memories cannot be brought back.
It is difficult for humans to let go of the restrictions we put upon ourselves and just ‘fly free’. When we do, the experience can be wonderful. I have a memory of friends dropping by my home when I was a teenager. I, with cream dotted all over my face, barefoot in shorts, was asked if I would like to go for a ride in a convertible on that sunny day. Why, of course! I rubbed that cream right in, slid on sandals and out the door I went. I can still remember that afternoon, with us ending up at the Varsity. I got home, tired and a tad sun-burned, but oh so happy! We all need times such as that and as often as we can, we should open ourselves up and allow them. In my remembrance, there could have been many excuses not to go, but I am glad I did.
Obviously, we cannot say yes to everything, however, saying yes to inviting more fun and freshness into our lives would be a good thing. As we age, it becomes harder to say, “Yes!” Our spontaneity starts slipping, sometimes for good reasons: poor health, family, and other obligations. The health issue is a big one. Less energy and more pain prevent us from moving around as we would like. On the other hand, moving around more might lessen that pain and bring more energy.
This discussion was aimed at you and your desires. Don’t say “no” to yourself when you would rather say, “yes.” If you envision your life a certain way, you can remove the blocks to make it happen. In the end, it is always up to our attitude as to how our lives play out. This includes unavoidable circumstances. We all have those to face, every day. I imagine a book could be written on this subject, there is so much to discuss. I hope you make a happy life, as best you can. Quoting writer Margaret Atwood, “If I waited for perfection, I would never write.” So goes our lives. What are you waiting for?
Jimmie retired from Henry County Senior Services in Stockbridge, where she managed Hidden Valley Senior Center and resided for 38 years. She uses her newfound time writing (for The Times) and enjoying life!