Resolutions for life
Enough time has passed since we greeted 2017 to ask of you ... did you actually make resolutions and have you honored them? I’ll admit I did not. All year long I try to better myself, not leaving it all to be done when another new year comes around. One of my quotes I saved in Pinterest says, “The only person we need to be better than tomorrow is the person we are today.”
Making lists does help achieve goals. Nothing beats looking at a long list of crossed-off deeds done well at the end of a day. My list of wannabe resolutions has changed and mellowed over the years.
My idea of happiness has altered too. Who would not want to be healthier? What senior citizen wouldn’t want more energy and less pain upon awakening every morning?
My first thought is to not bombard myself with so many wants and needs that none can be achieved. This year, what has come to mind first is a list of wants and needs I wish every person would desire.
Humility was brought to my attention while watching Dr. Christiane Northrup on a TV show. She stated that “humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.” Chew on that for a few minutes. Wouldn’t our world be a more pleasant place in which to live if more humility was evident? This doesn’t mean ignoring your own needs, just don’t dwell on them. The pain or problems you experience in your life will lessen when you put more thought into helping others. It is true. There is always someone out there worse off than you. Finishing up a book by Dean Koontz, I read a page of notes he had added, with chapters listed, of quotes he used from the work of T. S. Eliot. Jumping off the page at me was, “The only wisdom we can hope to acquire is the wisdom of humility.” It was as if Mr. Koontz and Mr. Eliot were giving me their approval for this article I had written!
Next, I choose Kindness. Make it a part of every day. Be kind to all living creatures around you, including you! Be kind to yourself and being kind to others will come naturally. Dr. Northrup explained a ritual she prescribed to help. Every morning, look into your eyes in the mirror and say, “I love you, I really do love you.” Asking you to do this for 30 days and discover good results. Sounds nutty? Well, I haven’t tried it yet, but I will. Right now I will tape a note to my bathroom mirror with this ritual printed and at the end of 30 days you may ask me the outcome and I will tell you! I’m back, note is taped to mirror. That is another ‘ritual’ I have started ... do it now, whatever I think of to do. Don’t put off the job at hand, it'll never get done!
Show generosity toward others and that doesn’t always mean with money. Be generous with your time, smiles, knowledge, sharing everything you can to make life more pleasant for others and for yourself.
Do not listen to excess noise, news you won’t remember tomorrow; the people with good intentions, telling you what you can’t do. Our world is so full of excess noise. Replace it with soothing music, a calming influence. It is amazing how small adjustments can change the way we feel, improving our outlook on life.
There are many words to be written on the above subjects, too many for this article. I hope I did spur some thoughts for you as to how you might make this a better world. It takes each of us. You are just as important as any other human being on this planet. Remember that and keep remembering as you go about your daily life; humility, generosity, kindness, and most importantly, do it with a smile!
Jimmie retired from Henry Co. Senior Services in Stockbridge, where she managed Hidden Valley Senior Center and resided for 38 years. She uses her newfound time writing (for The Times) and enjoying life!